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Friendship With Ex Boyfriend  Uploading ....Breakups are difficult experiences. Believe me, I have been in a few of those. But what is worse than losing the love you enjoyed so much, is losing the friendship that came even before the romance begun. You will find that just because you called it quits on your romantic involvement does not mean you stopped caring about your former partner’s welfare or stopped enjoying each other's company.
 To maintain a cordial and even enriching friendship with your ex boyfriend, you should not think in terms of how to get your boyfriend back. What you should be thinking of is how to remain good friends without all the drama and heartache. There are some steps you should go through to make the friendship work.
Get Over Him
The first thing you need to do is put some distance between yourself and your ex immediately after the breakup. This is to give you time to get over each other and to collect yourself.
Avoid Hidden Agendas
Make sure you have good intentions in wanting to be friends with your ex. Do not start a friendship with ex boyfriend just to keep tabs on him, or to try and make him jealous by showing off your new guy or guys. Do not do it to frustrate his efforts at moving on with his own life. As a friend you should be supportive and encouraging, do not hold each other back.
Show Some Care
As a friend, feel free to occasionally show him that you are there for him. However, do not pester him or stalk him. This may turn his friendship into hatred or resentment, and you don’t want that. You can give him advice on fashion, advice on relationships, or career and education advice as a friend. Just watch out not to continue with the issues you used to disagree about as a couple.
Boost His Ego
Make your friend feel good about themselves and about having you as a friend. It pays to help boost a friend’s morale and self-esteem. Assure him that you would never change anything about him. This makes it much easier to heal any lingering feelings of hurt that came about with the breakup.
Do Not Flirt
It may be tempting to flirt with him, and even have casual sex with him. After all, you are already very familiar with each other. But that is a sure way to end the friendship in a worse way than the initial breakup. Avoid topics on your personal sex lives and do not get too deep when discussing your romantic life after the breakup. Though some general advice on relationships is okay, avoid making it too personal by going too deep.
Have Fun
He is your friend, so be free with him. Hang out together, preferably in the company of other mutual friends. However, it is best if you kept your meetings and conversations short and impersonal.
To regain your ex’s friendship, you better be honest with him. But avoid making him the center of your world. Work on your own life. If he is not willing to work on the friendship, then you better say goodbye. If he does not show you the respect you expect from every other friend, then it is not worth it.
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